Here we list some more specific features of SBCMB that we have observed. As we mentioned above, the pattern seems to be reasonably consistent across the handful of people we have identified in our own experience (again, we want to affirm that none of these are people that either of us have worked with in a paid capacity). We want to reiterate that we are not talking here about people here who fit just a few of the features below, or who fit the pattern only occasionally(e.g. when under high stress). Pretty much all of us do some of these things some of the time! However, if a person does many of these things much of the time, we are suggesting it should be a cause of concern.
The specific features we will discuss are:
- Fraught relationships with peers
- Excessive reactions to praise and sympathy
- Initial (selective) love-bombing
- Making themselves the greatest victim
- Resisting and transgressing personal boundaries
- Using words persuasively but untruthfully
- Creating a relational climate that revolves around themselves
- Self-affirming reactions to criticism
- Energetically co-opting others to affirm themselves
- Expressing feelings of betrayal when serious action is taken
- What if this describes me?
Read the next section: Fraught relationships with peers
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