If at this point you are becoming concerned that you yourself are exhibiting SBCMB, we want to encourage you. The very fact that you are concerned is probably evidence that either you aren’t the kind of person we are describing here, or that if you are, you are already on the road to dealing with the problem. In our experience, sadly, a key feature of those who exhibit SBCMB is a denial that they have a problem. As we have seen, those who exhibit SBCMB tend to locate the source of all of their problems in others. However, if you do admit you have a problem, then this is an encouraging sign. This is true of many kinds of problems, not just the issue we are talking about here. It is always good to pray about our problems and ask God to give us help and insight.
It is possible that the issues you are identifying in yourself are related to complex and/or childhood trauma. If so, the Blue Knot Foundation is a good place to go for counselling, help and advice.
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