Note that we have so far only described some of the general indications that a person may be exhibiting SBCMB. Inconsistencies in speaking and relating, increasing confusion among people in their sphere of influence, and claims of “gaslighting” and “abuse” do not necessarily mean that the person is exhibiting this general pattern of SBCMB. There may be other explanations. But these general indications should prompt you to ask further questions. We will here go on to describe the actual pattern of SBCMB behaviours that we have identified.
We will now make some observations about two broad patterns of speaking and acting that seem to underlie various other more specific features of SBCMB:
- Defining morality in terms of themselves
- Redefining personal/relational reality to suit their view of themselves
We will spell out these broad patterns first in this section. In the next section, we will describe more specific ways in which these broad patterns can manifest themselves. We will also provide some (anonymised) examples from our own experience.
Read the next section: Defining morality in terms of themselves
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