We noted above that the term “abuse” does not necessarily apply to all the behaviours we are identifying here as part of the pattern of SBCMB. However, we also noted that some instances of SBCMB may actually constitute abuse. As we said: Abuse is real, tragically it happens far too often, it can take various forms, including emotional and spiritual, and it should not be tolerated—it needs to be stopped and called to account for the protection of victims. We mentioned some publications that can help to understand the reality of abuse, including the books Redeeming Power and Something’s Not Right. Again, if you believe that the behaviour you have experienced may actually be abuse, we also strongly encourage you to report it to the appropriate authority, or do whatever action is appropriate in the situation. This may be hard, but it is important to do, not just for your sake, but for the sake of other potential victims.
 Langberg, Redeeming Power; Wade Mullen, Something’s Not Right (see above for details).
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